I agree that for a person who designs plane safety systems or performs QA, perfectionism might be a good quality. In your example, plane safety has nothing to do with perfectionism of a person who runs the airline, it's simply the essential thing: no safety-not enough people flying to keep business profitable. So, all I'm trying to say is that the people on this board might well be the 1% or the top in their field, but they might also be the ones that only see the people that are better than them or have achieved more and by measuring against those people, they feel "non-ambitious/non-high-achieving". Honestly, I can say that I feel like I'm going through a mini-midlife crisis realizing that I may well be 40 before I do my next start-up of my own and that is hard to take.even if I KNOW I'm making the best decision for my family, which is more important to me (meaning, I want a healthy marriage, well adjusted, well rounded kids more than I want the gulf stream jet). So, sometimes when a person like this mentally says they aren't going to go after something but still see others doing it, it it is hard on them in a variety of ways.
When I walk into the weight room or step onto the basketball court, I want to be considered the best. When I was playing sports, I didn't measure myself against the average or below average players and think "hey, I'm in the top 10% of this division/league/whatever", I would say "there are 10 people better than me and that cannot do". I measure myself by the Gates' of the world. Think of it this way, some people (myself included) probably don't measure themselves by normal standards. That being said, I can understand what the other person said about being considered "non-ambitious". I've worked in several start-ups and know what it can take and I don't believe I would be willing to do that at this point in my life. I don't think I could trade the family life for the dream of chasing a start-up right now. However, we have a great family life with our two kids, 4 and 1.
I like what I do, but it isn't all that fulfilling. My wife, also a doctor, makes a ton of money. I would say that I'm in a similar boat right now, though I sometimes feel guilty for not chasing the startup. I was reading this thread and came back to it a few hours later so I saw the 1st follow-up, but not yours. Interesting that you would phrase it that way.
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